August 9, 2010

People pay a lot of money to hear motivational speakers. I’ve been to my fair share of forums and workshops that featured such talent, and I do leave feeling better about myself, and ready to conquer the world! But what about those times a professional isn’t around to cheer you up or inspire you? What if you don’t have the money to attend these events on a regular bases. How can you stay motivated?!

“Music is one of the few activities that involves using the whole brain. It is intrinsic to all cultures and can have surprising benefits not only for learning language, improving memory and focusing attention, but also for physical coordination and development.” eMedExpert.com.

“Music has power, as organizations such as the American Music Therapy Association have known for some time. Our emotions are easily swayed by music: it catches our attention and stimulates the brain.” Healthtree.com

And it MOTIVATES!! Who can really get excited about exercise these days without their iPod??!! Below are just a few of the songs that motivate me (under my iPod category titled YES I CAN!!) when I need it:

Give it 2 Me, by Madonna: Madonna in general motivates me. She is someone who came from humble beginnings and made something of herself; She’s a BRAND! This song is about not waiting for anyone or anything to come along and give you what you want. It’s a lot like life - sometimes YOU have to reach out and make something happen...TAKE IT!!

Golden, by Jill Scott: The message is live your life NOW like it’s golden. Appreciate the freedom and choices YOU have; make it happen!

Fighter, by Christina Aguilera: We’ve all been through rough experiences. People have not always been nice to us. Instead of being bitter, use the anger and experience to make you stronger, and wiser.

Beautiful You Are, by Deborah Cox: We can’t all look like Kim Kardashian but true beauty is not what is on the outside. Inner beauty is just as relevant. Leave your insecurities at the door and believe in yourself. Don’t ever let anyone put you down. Beautiful, you are.

His Eye is on the Sparrow, by Lauryn Hill and Tanya Blount: My faith is important to me, and although it is generally strong, I periodically feel discouraged. This song quickly reminds me that if God has his eye on something as small as a sparrow, surely he is watching out over me.

Pray, by Cece Winans: So, besides reminding myself how important I am to God, I also remind myself of the importance of prayer. And there is no better song to get you pumped up about worship then this song. Be motivated and pray...God wants to hear from you! “Situations get too much for you to take, and you feel like you will break”....but it’s going to be OK because you have someone in your corner who will be there for you...just pray!”

I Wish You, by Gloria Estefan: This song is all about forgiveness. It’s important to be strong, to believe in yourself, to fight, etc....but what can make us great is our ability to forgive. No matter how much someone has wronged you, it never excuses you to pay evil for evil. Sometimes “faithful and kind might be confused for weak”. Nothing could be further from the truth. Think about it, it takes a really strong and evolved person to forgive. With strength and evolution comes greater wisdom.

June 28, 2010

Recently I’ve reviewed, corrected, and rewrote several resumes for clients and friends. I’ve seen several styles and formats. Some are better than others for certain positions and fields. A lot depends on the perspective of the person hiring, something I’m learning many people are neglecting to consider when writing their resumes and letters of intent (or cover letter). There are many experts and books out there to discuss the do’s and don’ts of resume writing, but let me share with you some ideas from the perspective of the person hiring!! I’ve reviewed thousands of resumes and letters in my career and only the great ones were called in for an initial interview. Now with the economy being down and so many people unemployed, imagine the number of resumes hiring managers receive today? So what makes your resume stand out in the stack? Below are some tips to consider when writing or reviewing your resume and letter of intent.

WIIFM: This stands for “What’s in it for me?” This is a good approach to consider no matter what you are writing. Strongly consider your audience! If the job calls for a quality expert, then discuss how you helped your department or company become ISO 9000 certified, or that you were instrumental in helping your department pass an external audit. Simply to outline your skills without giving any thought to what your potential employer may want is a waste of your time. A resume should be standard and rarely tampered with for each position. But in the letter of intent you have the opportunity to really spell this out. It’s what they read first and helps them to consider if they want to continue to the next page, the resume.

Parallel Duties and Skills: To follow up with the suggestion above, the best way to explain “what’s in it” for the employer is to parallel their needs with your skills. I once applied for a job at a travel company simply because I loved their philosophy and using their services. In my letter of intent I outlined how I recognized quality was key in their organization, how it was in my current organization, and how I would bring that same philosophy to them. I got a call from HR the very next day! Good writing will bring you the attention you want. (But not always the money, thus I didn’t take the job :D )

Bullets Please: An easy way to carry out the second point is through bullets. Highlight their needs, and then follow it up with your skill. Bullets are also nice because (again thinking about the reader who has a stack of resumes to review) they allow the reader to quickly view aspects that are important to them.

Results Always Win: This is easy if you’re in Sales or any other field dealing with numbers. A little more challenging if not, but never impossible. Consider the hiring process the same as the buying process. In the buying process, their are five benefits that will entice one to buy: save money, make money, save time, enhance image, and survival in the market place. I’m currently working with a client who is the PR field. Providing numbers in her documentation is challenging, but not her results. She was instrumental in creating life saving communication in a previous job. This tremendously helped the image of her previous employer. So I instructed her to put in bold a specific sentence in her paragraph that would capture the attention of any hiring employer.

Be Creative: This can be tricky because it can easily slid into “cheesy”, so do so with caution. Not everyone young woman who decides to put her resume on pink paper and spray perfume on it will have the same results the character Elle Woods did in the movie “Legally Blonde”. One French computer programer applied for a job creating a cartoon resume and put it on YouTube. It was done extremely well and he did land a job at a well know software company. If you are not normally a creative person, please don’t do this on your own. Get expert advise. But try to stand out.

June 21, 2010

A friend suggested I write about the topic of bullying at work. I told her I agreed it would make an excellent topic, and then proceeded to put it aside as one of many topics I could discuss at a later date. I know it goes on, but as a strong woman, I just couldn’t relate to it. Very rarely have I been bullied or seen it in the work place.

Recently I started working with a new client. She is smart, beautiful, strong, very intelligent, and to my surprise is facing bullying at work! OK, hint taken. The Universe rarely repeats itself unless it wants you to take action. So ladies, if you’re inept about this subject, as I was, or if you’re currently facing these circumstances, this blog is for you! I’m stunned that bullying continues past childhood, but apparently it is a serious problem in the workplace. It’s time to stand up and say enough is enough!

Many times it’s the workplace, and not the people: According to one article that addresses woman-on-woman bullying “Workplace environment factors are better predictors than gender. For example, a culture that carries no accountability or negative consequences, regardless of how harmful the behavior exhibited paves the way for bullies. A place where kissing-up (ingratiation) is the norm is fertile territory, where bullying and favoritism (and its converse, ostracism) thrive.”

Double standards for women: We are all aware of the misconception that a woman’s “niceness” can be misconstrued for weakness, and her strength for “bitchiness”. This can play in the hands of any bully. If you’re someone who is known to be nice, and people tend to take advantage of it, you can’t let them. You can still keep a clam voice and let your bully know their behavior will not be tolerated. Standing up to a bully many times puts them in their place and ensures they don’t repeat their behavior. On the other hand, If you’re someone who is strong (like me) you need to be cognizant of the fact others not as strong may see your ability to negotiate as coercion, and browbeating. Be persuasive and not self righteous.

Women make good targets because they rarely report it: This is not to say women are weak. It’s in part because most women will turn inwards when there is a problem. “What did I do wrong?”, “What can I do differently to make this stop?” Where as most men have no issues seeing the situation as someone else's fault or problem and taking the appropriate action. I’m all for looking inward to see if one is more the problem and not the solution. But there comes a point when you have to say “There’s nothing more I can do to make the situation right or go away, therefore I have to reach out to someone else who can help me make it better.”

Most bullies are bosses: It is believed that 72% of all bullies are bosses! Many times bosses have an unrealistic sense of self or means for getting things done. It’s also easier to bully those within reach, and that is the case for many subordinates. Use caution if this is the case. It’s important to know the difference between a directive and being bullied. If you’re unsure, talk to your HR representative.

I’m all for having thick skin and letting some jokes and gestures go by without paying them too much attention. It takes a lot to make me mad or motivate me to act. However, if you are truly offended by the remarks or actions of others toward you, you have the right to act. If you can, make the person offending you aware of their action. He or she may not even be aware they offended you. If that doesn’t work, or the issues are more serious (sexual harassment, etc...) contact your Human Resources or Legal department immediately. You should never condone or tolerate bad behavior.

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